• Relationship

    She Described The Experience ‘Worse Than A Heartbreak’

    In the middle of the night, a WeChat notification popped up on my screen. It was a voice message from my Friend. I had an abortion. I pressed the repeat button a few times because I didn’t know if I had heard it correctly. It was not a phrase which I could see myself going through. It was her first time getting an abortion. Her family and boyfriend weren’t by her side. She went in alone and came out, feeling even more empty. She didn’t regret going for the abortion, but she felt empty going through the entire process alone. When she needed her Boyfriend the most, he wasn’t with…

  • Education,  Job

    College Major Over Passion? Or, The Other Way Round?

    One of the scariest moment ever would certainly be when you are being asked a question yet, you don’t know the answer to it.  When people asked me about my major, I would tell them that I am studying computer science. They would be like “oh, it’s good money”. I died a little while whenever I heard it. It’s only good money when you are really good at the field otherwise, it would just be a hobby. I never tell people about what I exactly do other than some part-time jobs. My part-time jobs would always be related to a certain skill needed at that point in time. I don’t know…

  • Education,  Job,  Lifestyle

    Living Alone Ain’t All Rainbows And Unicorns 

    Adulting is not easy.     Let me be honest.  It’s the big bad grown-up world with big bad grown-up people who don’t give you a second chance. Any mistake piles up. It gets bigger and bigger until you’re one tangled ball of mess. However, it has thought me so many lessons. School is expensive. I know college is a lot of money. 4 years of it definitely makes a big fat hole in your pocket. Well, now I’m reminded of that every day. Every single day. For those who know me, I love learning. I’d love to just stay in school and keep studying. But that would also mean…

  • Relationship

    Thoughts Of Being A Leftover Woman

    If you are not going to get married anytime soon, you are considered a “Leftover Woman”. Sure, let me be a leftover woman then.   As I am getting older, I am always getting pressurized by people who would encourage me to get married. What does my happiness have to do with you? I don’t understand. Based on the recent years of spending time alone, I begin to doubt my ability to be in a relationship and getting married. Well,  I can see myself in a relationship and getting married with me, myself and I. As mentioned in my previous articles, a marriage is like having a long-life investment in…

  • Lifestyle

    Blame Yourself For Not Working Harder

    The older you get, the more budget conscious you tend to be as opposed to the previous year. Inflation can occur and it affects us on a daily basis. In this context, I am not referring to the basic standard quality of life but rather, the failure of attaining the things you want. You are already considered blessed if you can pay your bills on time, have a roof over your head and able to save some money. No matter how little it is, you are still saving. Each year, I would do a mini review on my standard of living, based on my wishlist. How many items did I…

  • Relationship

    The Moment You Give An Orbiter Your Attention

    They would come back to you when things don’t work out with their current partner or the moment they finally realized that you are a goddam diamond. They are waiting for something even better while you are constantly giving them your validation. Do you still want an orbiter in your life?   We often found ourselves too hasty when it comes to burning bridges. You did that out of a moment. Then after what happened? You realized you still need them in one way or another. In the end, you have no choice but to fix the bridges you burned. Such an irony, can’t relate. When an orbiter tried to…

  • Lifestyle

    Quarter-Life Crisis: Emergency Fund

    One of the most important accounts you should always have instead of a regular saving account would be Emergency Fund. Trust me on that. When approaching adulthood, you would find yourself spending money on a person who isn’t you. These few years, some of my friends are moving to the next phase of their lives. They are getting married to the love of their lives. It’s such a glorious moment but another hole to my bank. Please don’t take it as I don’t like to “俾人情”(a term used in Cantonese whenever we attend someone’s wedding and give them money) Where does that money come from? It is from my Emergency…

  • Mental Health,  Travel

    Traveling Even When You’re Tied Up With Work

    A few days ago, one of my friends asked me a really personal question that I find it almost too uncomfortable to answer her. In fact, some of my friends are really curious about how I can afford luxuries like traveling. “How much do you actually earned in a month?” “I don’t have an answer to that.” She just thought that I was being funny when I told her that I don’t receive a fixed salary paycheck anymore. That being said, if I don’t work, I don’t get paid and most of the time I can’t predict how much I would earn. LOL! Very few people would know that I…

  • Education,  Lifestyle

    Times Flies, I’m Almost 23

    I’m almost 23. Wow! That’s fast. However, it seems like nothing has changed. I’m still in college, my bank is still empty and I’m still chugging coffee like water. Well, I’ve been doing that since I was 14 so basically no change since then.   I’ve heard many says… nobody likes you when you’re 23. Well, since I can’t avoid this, its time to prepare.  Growing up is never easy. I’m still growing up every day, maturing a little more, learning about the ways of the world. Honestly, it gets harder every day. 5 years ago, I wouldn’t say that I’d be where I am today. That, my friend, is…

  • Uncategorized

    Traveling As A 25-Year-Old

    I get travel-shamed sometimes because people would try to stress their point of view when my way of living doesn’t align with them. Do you think I really care about what you think? No. Travel in your 25 is going to be slightly different than your early twenties. You would want to have a more comfortable seat on the aircraft and of course, you would want to have a better standard of travel experience. If you want it, why are you holding back on it? At the age of 25, I have learned to take care of myself even better as compared to my teenage years. Hence, I would like…